Being a no show to a wedding is pretty bad, but handling it like this is worse…


When I got married a former roommate of mine RSVP’d that he and his girlfriend were coming to the wedding. He never showed, and never offered an explanation as to why.

Then, there was one family who drrrrrrrraaaaaaaaggggged out the RSVP until the very last second. They RSVP’d for five.

Only two out of the five actually showed up…when the ceremony was over. Then they left immediately after the meal at the reception.

My wife and I accepted that stuff like that happens. People can be rude and inconsiderate, especially if they’ve never had a wedding of their own to plan, they don’t understand how off-putting it is to do things like invite yourself, or be a no show.

One thing I didn’t realize until I was getting married is that weddings have become BIG business since my parents generation and before. So a no show is a lot more costly to the hosts than it ever has been.

That’s probably why we’re starting to see stories like this one more often…

It was a couple weeks ago, Jessica Baker was getting ready to go to a wedding with her husband when she got a call from her mom.

“She called at the last minute and had something come up and said I can’t make it,” said Baker.

Her mom was supposed to watch their kids. And since the invitation said no children, that meant no wedding. But then this week, she received a bill for the dinner they were supposed to have enjoyed.

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It’s my party and I’ll fine if I want to…

Baker says she isn’t going to pay it, and unless the invitation was the Obamacare of invitations with thousands of pages of rules nobody reads then she doesn’t have to pay it.

They might as well have sent a picture of a burning bridge, because that’s worth more than this bill. Of the tens of thousands the wedding probably cost $75 is pretty minor. It also should be forgivable if the guest doesn’t show because they can’t through no fault of their own.

Given that, the newlyweds are basically saying $75 is how much Baker’s friendship is literally worth to them. If that’s so then why invite her in the first place?

I’d hate to see the invoice if the groom didn’t show.

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